If you're like me, you probably envisioned how you would discipline your child long before he started snatching toys and throwing sucker punches.
Being a writer and someone who fancied herself a strong communicator, I knew that "talking it out" would be my weapon of choice in those rare instances when my child sidelined his stellar upbringing and screwed up.
I would gently pull him aside (never scold him in public) and without raising my tone, I'd recap the chain of events and go over some "better choices" he could have made. I'd explain why his behavior was not desirable but be sure to validate his feelings. I'd encourage him to apologize and set him on the path of empathy. I'd try to sneak in the benefit of sharing, taking turns and not clocking someone upside the head without sounding preachy. I'd assure him that my love is unconditional. We'd hug and emerge better people.
In the four plus years I've been a parent I think I've used this method 1/2 time. Instead, when Jake misbehaves, disciplinary action pretty much breaks out as follows.
As you can see, I lean toward yelling, eye rolling and putting up a good appearance. This perhaps because we have one of those "strong-willed" children you may have heard about.
Okay, for better or worse, I fessed up about my actions. What does your pie chart look like?